“From the time you take your first breath, you become eligible to die. You also become eligible to find your greatness and become the one warrior”
– David Goggins
On this episode, I talk about my younger anxiety filled years and how I quit everything once it got tough. How did I not quit my recovery journey once the resistance showed up? How can you stick to your goals? I talk about this and more, on todays episode.
- Anything new you introduce into your already existing routine will be met with resistance. Until the behaviour is fully explored/practiced, it is most likely going to cause many of those: “lets not do this and go back to old ways” thoughts. The mind wants to stick to the path of least resistance.
- I was always a quitter. I would quit sports and would give up on school work when things got difficult. I would lean on my parents for help. In reality the work was not crazily challenging, but I had little confidence in myself that I could tackle this work.
- When I reflect on how far I came in my anxiety recovery, I become overwhelmed. I never thought I could stick to something and actually change as a person. Now here I am, 4 years later, as a completely different person. It all started from those small wins like: getting up earlier, cleaning the car, avoiding that negative friend and going to the gym instead. Those micro routines that we do everyday are unbelievably important. They make up our character. If you start to chip away and change these little by little, then you will be in a totally different place a year from now.
- A habit is 3 things: que (trigger), behaviour, and reward. Then, the brain takes these 3 things and makes it happen automatically the more you repeat this. When it came to my school work, the assignment would trigger my anxiety, I would go to my parents with worry and concern, and then I would get that help and reassurance. So instead of stretching my potential by working diligently on my own, I became dependent on them for help.
- To recover from my anxiety disorder, I had to be Selfish. To change my circumstances in life, I had to change all my internal programs. Everything was not working out for me, so thing NEEDED to change. Having a coach (mentor, role model who overcame the same problem I was facing) gave me hope. That it is possible to be like them. Independent, emotionally stable, and mentally strong. What if I treated myself like a friend who actually wants the best for you? What if I became my own best friend? So I had to be HONEST with myself. My life sucks right now. What am I doing daily that I know I should stop doing but can’t? What would my life be like a year from now if I don’t change? What would it be like if it did? This self dialogue is what’s necessary to change your circumstances. To add fuel to changing and anxiety to staying where I am.
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